Now that I’ve had the privilege of being a communication coach since 1994, it’s made me aware of a common dilemma that many of my clients voice. That dilemma (as I see it) is the desire to be perfect when communicating.
While the desire to achieve perfection may seem reasonable, I urge you to reconsider. Here are a host of reasons:
1. Perfection or being perfect is extremely subjective. How will you even know when you’ve attained it?
2. Being perfect is something for which you set the standard. However, isn’t that standard always changing?
3. Communication by its very nature is imperfect. What’s the value in striving for perfect communication?
4. Immense pressure exists in being the perfect networker, presenter, interviewer, facilitator, etc. Is it really feasible to be “perfect” in each of these communication roles?
5. We all experience stress. Do you truly want to increase your stress level by shooting for perfection every time you communicate?
6. The appearance of being perfect can be problematic in and of itself. Do you feel good being around someone who seems perfect when they communicate with you?
If being perfect isn’t ideal, what’s the alternative you ask? In my opinion, your best option is being authentic or real when you communicate. Here are a host of reasons:
1. When you’re real, it feels good to you and that spills over to others.
2. When you’re real, you trust yourself.
3. When you’re real, it rings through as confidence.
4. When you’re real, it appeals to your listener(s) and boosts your credibility.
5. When you’re real, your message resonates with clarity.
6. When you’re real, your communication skills skyrocket.
Now then, what’s your communication goal—perfect or real? I sincerely hope it’s being real. If not, I’m always here to discuss this further with you and that’s a real offer.