Did you know that you and I (and everyone we know) is hard-wired? Perhaps you suspected that, however yesterday when I read an article by Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. he discussed a concept known as “negativity bias” and how we’re all inclined toward this (http://elishagoldstein.com). Dr. Goldstein explained that while this negativity bias ensures our species’ survival, it can also infringe on our ability to stay on a direct path to happiness and well-being. What really intrigued me was when I read that this bias can tell us we’re “not good enough.”
That last point is where I began reflecting on my clients who often articulate (and may believe) that they’re “not good enough” when it comes to public speaking. Can you relate to this feeling? If so, you’re certainly not alone. Even better is that there are recommendations for tackling negativity bias. I found useful information in an article by Tony Schwartz, published in the New York Times, titled: Overcoming Your Negativity Bias.
Some of the suggestions included:
1. Start with self-awareness since you can’t change what you don’t notice. Mr. Schwartz recommends asking yourself several times a day, how you’re feeling, especially when you’re under pressure.
2. Get a piece of paper and spend 2-3 minutes jotting down everything for which you’re grateful; see what effect that has on how you’re feeling.
3. Move your attention toward what makes you feel good, which increases your capacity to manage whatever was making you feel bad in the first place.
BONUS: For those of you, like many of my clients, who seem to have a negativity bias about your business communication, know that you’re most likely not seeing the whole picture. The more this occurs the more it holds you back professionally. I urge you to consider corporate communication coaching to fully appreciate your strengths and if necessary to learn techniques to improve your skills.
As always, you’re more than welcome to contact me and I’ll do my best to offer you a new direction. It’s how I’m wired.