Whom do you trust? Important question on many levels, which determines how you’ll respond. You may trust a family member, a childhood friend, your peers, or an employer. But the toughest question is do you have self–trust? When we trust ourselves, it’s quite powerful. Of course, not everyone has self-trust.
In my readings, I came across a post by Dr. Michael Gervais, a sports psychologist. He explained the immense importance of self-trust. He describes this as “one of the most bedrock mental skills that people can have” and advises that we build trust in ourselves by going through difficult times. Therefore, Dr. Gervais suggests we go back through our lives and jot down any event we got through and earned the right to say “I can do difficult things.” This means you show commitment and stick with whatever is most challenging. Think of it as grit.
As I read his post, I realized it applies to public speaking. For many of us, the mere act of public speaking is difficult and we often wonder if we can really get through it. Since I began coaching clients in 1994, I’ve heard from many that public speaking was a huge obstacle. While I certainly understand that issue, I now realize that self-trust plays a pivotal role. Each of us needs self-trust to believe in the communication coaching being provided. These include techniques such as: diaphragmatic breathing, progressive relaxation, visualization, purposeful practice and a host of other strategies that make a difference.
Having self-trust as your anchor is vital to your success. You don’t have to have the answers but you do have to believe this is an obstacle you’re capable of managing vs. having it manage you. That’s a good starting point and together we will address this. Along the way you’ll build your self-trust and develop the public speaking skills you’re seeking.