We’ve all seen the shift key on our computers but I’m referring to something quite different.  If you’re like most of us, you may sometimes find yourself down in the dumps, feeling bad, or maybe just feeling as though you’re stuck in a rut.  We’ve all been there and that may be a signal that it’s time to shift from your current state of mind into a more positive state of mind.

For example, do any of these behaviors sound familiar?

  1. Catastrophizing: You tend to automatically assume the worst will happen without any specific facts. (I’m definitely guilty of this trait.)
  2. Magnifying: You tend to blow things out of proportion so something on the more minor side seems more like something major.
  3. Polarizing: You tend to either see most events as good or bad vs. seeing some type of middle ground.  It’s kind of like black or white.  You don’t allow yourself to experience gray.
  4. Personalizing: You tend to blame yourself when something goes wrong when you may not be the cause for blame in any way.

These are some of the behaviors I see in those that I coach.  My goal is to help my clients feel stronger and more confident when public speaking.  It’s my belief that this mindset shift is a healthy place to start.

Ways to make this mindset shift include:

a. Spending time reflecting and seeking meaningful feedback from various individuals you trust.

b. Spending the majority of your time with supportive and encouraging people.

c. Taking essential time for yourself to meditate and discover more about your thoughts and belief systems.

This mindset shift happens over time but it’s important to be patient with yourself.  It’s like learning a new skill and therefore may not occur in your particular time frame.  It’s also natural to experience the occasional setback; this is why perseverance counts.

Let me know if I can help by listening to you and answering any questions you may have.  You can reach me at 518-664-6004 or dale@profitablespeech.com

[Courtesy to Mayo Clinic for some content.]