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If you’re one of my readers, you already know that we can communicate in a variety of ways. Different situations warrant different communication styles. Sometimes a direct style is indicated while at times a more indirect style may be more suitable. Did you know that there is room for both direct and indirect communication? There is—however blending the two may be more difficult for some.
An excellent resource for this is Marianne Slotboom of Yellow Training. Ms. Slotboom offers these five guidelines for blending both direct and indirect communication styles:
- Become aware that communicating with both types of individuals is possible with the right amount of effort.
- Increase your understanding that there isn’t a right way or a wrong way to interact with others.
- Know that we each have biases and therefore delaying judgement is strongly recommended.
- Increase your knowledge of ways respect is demonstrated even though it may differ from how you are accustomed to respect being displayed.
- Consciously practice the style of communication that is new for you. By doing this, you will increase your flexibility as well as come to realize advantages associated with each form of communication.
If you’re more of a direct communicator, it is advised that you avoid making blunt remarks and pay close attention to nonverbal signals. If you’re more of an indirect communicator, realize that your subtle messages may not be perceived as intended…if perceived at all. Ms. Slotboom concludes that in our quest for “culturally intelligent teams” one has to be both comfortable in their own skin as well as cognizant of which of their communication behaviors needs to be modified.
This post is intended as food for thought. What do you think? Clearly, there is room for both direct and indirect communication styles. It comes down to knowing about the person (or people) with whom you’re communicating as well as being able to switch your communication style as needed.
If I may assist you with your communication style please let me know and I’ll make myself available to you or to your staff.